In the intricate web of family and societal dynamics, the role of men is often a balance between abstract and concrete. They take on the role of unsung heroes, providing stability and support which goes unnoticed, and yet -- at the same time -- they are viewed as the patriarch and the all-powerful driving force behind a family. As traditional perceptions continue to evolve, it is essential to shed light on the multi-faceted contributions and challenges they face.
The provider paradigm
For generations, men have been the default breadwinners, a responsibility rooted in societal expectations and norms. South Asia for example, with dual-income families rising currently, single-income households – typically backed by men -- remain relatively predominant. This role often involves immense pressure on them to ensure the family’s financial security and livelihood. However, the provider role is just one dimension of their contributions. Beyond financial stability and men's activity, men actively nurture, protect, and guide their families, creating an environment where all members can thrive.
Emotional anchors
Contrary to the stereotype of emotional detachment, men play a significant role as emotional anchors within the family. They provide support during times of crises, offer encouragement, and contribute to fostering open communication. Although often overlooked, these efforts form the foundation of healthy family relationships.
Many men hesitate to seek help, fearing judgment or being perceived as weak due to the social perception surrounding men’s mental health
Role models for the next generation
Men, particularly fathers, hold a profound influence over their children’s holistic growth and development. As active participants in their children’s lives, they not only provide material support but also shape their emotional, intellectual, and moral foundations. Fathers teach their children essential life skills, from problem-solving and critical thinking to resilience and adaptability, equipping them to face challenges with confidence. A father’s involvement in everyday activities -- helping with schoolwork, sharing hobbies, playing games or simply engaging in meaningful conversations -- instills a sense of security and self-worth in children.
Their guidance fosters independence while balancing discipline with compassion, ensuring children grow into well-rounded and responsible individuals. This silent yet powerful contribution to their children’s growth further underscores the multifaceted role of men as not just providers or protectors, but as architects of a brighter future for the next generation.
The invisible burden of expectations
Boys are conditioned to adopt roles as protectors and providers from an early age. This expectation shapes their identity and behaviour, compelling them to prioritize the welfare of others over personal desires. While this role is essential for societal functioning, it often comes at the expense of men’s emotional well-being. The burden of always being strong leaves little room for vulnerability or self-expression.
Mental health challenges
Many men hesitate to seek help, fearing judgment or being perceived as weak due to the social perception surrounding men’s mental health. The stigma of reaching out cages them, causing them to isolate and remove all vulnerability to mask their suffering. This reluctance exacerbates stress, anxiety, and depression, leading to complex situations for both men and their families.
Men’s contributions to society and family are far more complex and multifaceted than traditional stereotypes suggest. Their efforts form the backbone of many relationships and communities, from silent emotional leadership to unseen sacrifices. Recognizing these dimensions uplifts men and fosters a more empathetic, inclusive, and balanced society.
Here’s to the men we know: Our fathers, brothers, sons, and friends. It’s time we celebrate the silent pillars of our lives, men who navigate expectations with quiet strength and dedication.
Nilufer Yasmin Munni is a freelance contributor.
