You can find tonnes of material that gives you free suggestions on how to maintain an everlasting relationship. The thousands of do’s and don’ts are enough to bombard your mind, regardless of their efficiency (or lack of) to improve your love life. However, in this era of constant hook ups and break ups, it’s important to know how to part gracefully.
Many, if not all relationships start with dreamy hopes, aspirations, and promises. For the first few months, couples feel like they are on cloud number nine and, they pinch themselves to believe if it’s really happening. People think that their broken heart is finally being mended, this time for real, and that too by someone who has been sent with the sole mission to be their soul mate.
But even in movies, the actors don’t even get a smooth three hours to get soaked in life; difficulties come, in many forms, depending on whether it’s Hollywood or Bollywood; and as a result, sooner or later, break ups happen. Some people can’t stand the pain, while others try to assuage the anguish created by their loved ones’ deception. Some pledge to spend the remaining part of their life in an ascetic way while others try even harder to get hooked up again, maintaining their usual panache and alacrity. Here’s three ways to make the ride back a smooth, hassle-free one.
Steer clear of badmouthing Regardless of which category one falls under, a few basic rules need to be followed to make sure the recovery process is a healthy one. Badmouthing the person you just broke up with is clearly nothing but a sign of a character deficit. Since a relationship can never contain only bad moments, even for the good moments’ sake, you shouldn’t demonise the ex. This only diminishes your credibility to others.
Don’t feed the gossip mills Don’t bother to clarify to people why you broke up. Although sharing your plight with close friends may help you, try to stay away from those who just want to know the details to feed gossip mills. Instead of explaining the minute details of why you broke up, just tell people it didn’t work out.
Maintain civility with the ex Remaining friends after a break up is easy to suggest, but quite difficult to put in practice. However, remember that it always pays you to keep a casual friendship even at times when you have bitter feelings for them. In most relationships, often the means justify the ends. Carefully closing the chapter that has just gone by is a skill that you will thank yourself for later.
