Q: My husband and I have been married for eight months now. When we first began dating, we both lived in Canada and were both very adventurous (in and out of the bedroom). We would get it on in outdoor spaces and it would really excite him. Now that we're married and living in Dhaka, nothing seems to excite him anymore. He keeps suggesting getting frisky in places like hotel washrooms or even lifts! I don't find this fun anymore – it's terrifying to even think of doing something like this in this city. I'm not a prude and I hate saying no all the time but how else can I explain this to him?
A: It's clear that you want to please your partner – both in and out of the bedroom. This is part of maintaining a healthy relationship however, there are limits and clearly you've reached yours. If you don't really enjoy the idea of doing it in hotel washrooms and lifts then just go ahead and say so. I fear there's something greater than just incompatible sex drives that is hampering your relationship. If you're still trying to give your husband the impression that you're adventurous and enjoy taking risks that you actually don't, you aren't being totally honest with him. You need to be true to yourself and who you are and he needs to learn to accept that. If not, there's more than just trouble brewing in the bedroom.
