Royena and Mamun had a small family of two. One day, there arrived a little angel who they named Tia. The parents were nervous.
How would they take care of a baby? They didn’t have anyone to teach them parenting, and they didn’t have an extra pair of hands to help them out with housework.
After thinking for a while, Royena and Mamun decided to do all the work by themselves. They started to sort out their tasks one by one.
Mamun took a month’s leave from his work for his beloved Tia, and to make some scope for Royena to have few days of proper sleep, and a bit of leisure.
He always intended to wrap Tia with the warm love of a father. Royena also constantly made herself busy with all the necessary and unnecessary things related to Tia. Cooking and other household chores were usually divided equally among themselves.
One day, a visiting relative saw Mamun doing housework, and was dumbstruck. Another time, a guest witnessed Mamun changing Tia’s diaper, and nearly fainted.
Why would a man do such things!
Mamun and Royena cracked up when they heard the complaints. They couldn’t care less.
Mamun might sound like a fictional character, but every family would do well to have a dad like him. It’s been tradition to bring pregnant mothers to their paternal houses right before childbirth. The reasoning being that it is important to take an experienced person’s advice when it comes to parenting.
However, in our society, parents often forget another equally important issue: Creating a bond between father and child.
Staying away from the dad for an extended period of time makes children dependent only on their moms, and in the future, they may face difficulties to get rid of that dependency.
Think a bit. When these new moms go back to their own nuclear families and think of joining work, they have to face huge problems, because their child has simply not spent enough time with his or her father.
This may cause moms to devote themselves to 24/7 child-rearing on top of their office work.
There are no gender roles when it comes to parenting. It is well past time for society to understand that child-rearing is not just a mother’s job
This is a mental breakdown waiting to happen. Also, since child-rearing is a difficult job, a lot of moms leave their careers for that. That often makes them depressed. The dad’s role is very significant, because only a mature and mentally capable partner can relieve the mother from her anxiety.
There are no gender roles when it comes to parenting. It is well past time for society to understand that child-rearing is not just a mother’s job.
By nature, children are dependent on moms for certain things. However, most things can be provided by the father.
Fathers can bathe the children, feed them, make them sleep, and look after them when mommy is tired.
Dads often don’t face the challenges of child-rearing because of social norms. But dads need to ask themselves: When the mom suffers from overwork and lack of sleep and fails to take proper care of the children, who will be the ultimate sufferer? The children, and the father himself.
Dads -- whatever your mothers, aunts, or in-laws may say, for your own good, you have to stand beside the new moms. It’s your responsibility to do so. Nowadays, many offices grant paternity leave.
In that time, you can spend some precious time with your newborn, and your partner. If your wife is staying with your parents, visit them often. Don’t just be a visitor. Be a dad.
Many partners have a tendency to take the paternal leave and spend it on themselves. This brings dissatisfaction to their partners.
The elders of the family have an important role to play. Dads shouldn’t be away, but close to their babies.
In nuclear families, when moms get busy with other household chores, if dads are there to take care of the children for a while, moms would get a chance to catch their breath.
Remember: Children will not be scared of dads anymore, but run towards them with a smile. Giving children money or only providing food is not the only role dads need to live up to.
A dad has to be a friend his children and walk them through the ups and downs of life.
Dads -- if you don’t involve yourselves in the lives of your children, one day your child might ask their mother who the strange man in the house is.
She will have to answer: “Your father.”
