My girlfriend and I have been together for four months now, with our courtship running it's course. There's something that really bothers me– her miserly attitude towards spending. She comes from a wealthy family, lives in Baridhara and also has a high paying job on top of all of that. I am comfortably well-off too, but not to the extent that she is. I am okay with “being the man” and “picking up the tab” all the time, but what bothers me is her lack of appreciation for this. She often tells me how she leaves the house with Tk5,000 everyday, but once she goes back home, she has the whole money intact. She takes pride in her ability to “save.” Once she even made me get her extremely expensive tickets to a concert, once we were there, she said she found it boring and wanted to go for dinner to an upscale restaurant. Once there, she racked the bills, ordering so much that I had to pay with my card. She never realises that this is unfair and hurtful how she never wants to pay. There's no way I can make her understand how difficult it is for me to cater to her lifestyle. How do I explain this to her without sounding like a cheap guy myself?
Your lady love knows full well what she's doing. Clearly she knows how much she's making you spend on concert tickets, and how much a fancy dinner in the city costs. It sounds like she's taking advantage of your good nature, and why wouldn't she? You've given her every opportunity to. If you really want to make things work, you must know that you can't go on like this. One day your funds will run out. Try to sit her down and gently tell her how much you earn and how difficult it is to keep up this lifestyle. Explain to her that you aren't trying to be cheap, rather, you're being realistic about what you can or cannot offer her. Good luck!
