Q: I am 35 years old and in search of a wife. But I don't want a marriage of
convenience, rather one of love. However, I cannot seem to find anyone I can
develop a liking for. My parents think I am too picky and are getting
anxious to get me married but I want to get it right. There was a girl I
used to like in high school but she's married now. Has my chance at true
love passed me by?
A: Oh, my dear, I know people who fell in love with someone in their 80s.
I just attended a wedding of a client of mine who married an older woman.
She is 82 and he is 78!
You may be a bit picky, you may be looking for the perfect girl. The
perfect man or perfect woman does not exist; what exists is the right woman
for you. Someone you love for who she is, not just someone for your needs.
Someone you can cherish and enjoy for who she is.
She will have faults and insecurities, just like you. A happy marriage is
like a business partnership – appreciating each others' strength and what
the other brings to the relationship, and most importantly, ignoring what we
do not like in the other.
