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7 questions about dating in 2018

  • Published at 08:53 pm February 15th, 2018
  • Last updated at 08:54 pm February 15th, 2018
7 questions about dating in 2018
Is it okay to date your best friend’s ex? - Yes, because my best friend is not dating his ex anymore. Besides, if she agrees to date me, I guess my best friend should understand. I know it is not something that’s going to be easy for my best friend but practically getting stuck with your ex is never healthy. (Tausif, 28) - I think it’s okay, given that they moved apart on good terms and have moved on with life. It’s also very important to consider whether my best friend is okay with it. But when we catch feelings for someone, do we even have the time to think about or consider all these factors? (Maliha, 22) Can exes really be friends? - Yes, they can, but the extent of friendship matters. There are exes who do not share any romantic attachment once they’ve come out of the relationship. They probably ended the relationship on a positive note and hold no grudges. These people may hang out with mutual friends and even stay close friends. However, in case of those who have experienced bitterness in the relationship and ended it on a bad note, I don’t think staying friends will be a healthy decision. So yes, I believe some exes can stay friends and share a beautiful and healthy bond, while for others it may bring back toxic memories. (Eera, 22) - Exes become exes for a reason! If that sole discomfort, disappointment or disconcert wasn’t there, you wouldn’t be exes in the first place. Becoming friends with an ex is more like allowing prey to walk free around predators thinking they are safe! (Ayesha, 27) Is a relationship really official if it’s not Facebook official? - Yes, of course, it is official regardless of it being Facebook official. Facebook does not define a person’s life or lifestyle. We show on Facebook only what we choose to show. (Faiza, 26) - It is a tricky question to answer nowadays. Some people think Facebook is everything. How many ‘likes’ or reactions they get seems to matter a lot. I find it very silly, though. For me , my relationship will not be based on Facebook. I’ll consider it official when my family and friends will know about it. (Laboni, 23) Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out? - Asking a guy out is perfectly okay from my perspective. Although our culture has traditionally trained women to be more reserved and protected, this general perspective is changing now. If the guy is a real catch, she should not hesitate and lose the opportunity of getting a partner who she thinks would be appropriate for her. (Sabbir, 28) - Yes, it is. The entire requirement for the male counterpart to take the lead in a relationship, be it asking her out or paying the bill, is outdated in a world where women have surpassed all of patriarchy’s shackles. In all truthfulness, while it is still chivalrous for a man to accept responsibility to guide the relationship, a girl who has reached that adequate level of closeness and personal freedom with her guy friend has the right to go ahead and ask him out. In fact, we guys find this strength of character super attractive! (Sudeepto, 24) How far into a relationship should a couple start exchanging gifts? - First of all, there is no set rule for exchanging gifts and you don’t necessarily have to be a couple to exchange gifts. I think gifts are a medium of showing love and affection and it should never be something that a person is forced to give. It all comes naturally and there is no ‘proper’ time for that. A person should be given the freedom of giving gifts to his/her loved one when s/he feels the time is right and it can be any time. It is the thought that counts. (Samanta, 23) - Giving gifts is the most conventional way of expressing one’s feelings for another. A connection of that sort can develop within minutes or even months. Also, the word ‘exchanging’ would mean that if a person gives a gift to his/her significant other, s/he would be obliged to give a gift back in return, but this ruins the true essence of a relationship. You’re not supposed to feel obliged to give presents to your partner just because s/he gave you one. It needs to come from the heart. (Shariba, 21) Who should pay on the first date – the guy or the girl? - I think couples should split the bills always, but on the first date both should insist to pay the bill. From my perspective, first impressions last forever, and so it’s very important to make a good first impression on your partner. (Sayem, 22) - The guy should pay on the first date. A girl on her first date looks forward to dating a ‘man’. The difference between a random guy and ‘the man’ she is looking for lies in the sense of responsibility that a guy can show by paying on the first date. It shows that the guy has a job, is responsible, caring and capable of taking care of her. Though all these qualities and characteristics cannot be completely confirmed by paying on the first date, it may help the girl take a decision on whether to move forward with him or not. (Mahdi, 28) When is it okay to introduce your partner to your parents? - I believe we should introduce our significant others to our parents about two months into a relationship. It is about that time when you are starting to really invest in that person and our parents know a lot more about it than we do. While we are fresh into dating someone we tend to be blind to small shortcomings that will spark conflict later in life, but our parents can see them right from the beginning. While it absolutely is not the case that our parents can choose who we date, they are a valuable source of advice in a life changing event. Afterall, if we have an advisory panel for tangible investments, why not one for a life-changing decision? (Tahmid, 25) - The moment I feel she will not only never give up on me, but is also willing and comfortable to make any positive adjustments with my family, and most importantly will be able to respect my family values as much as I value hers, is the right moment to introduce her to my parents. (Robin, 26)