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Taking charge of your own life

  • Published at 12:01 am October 30th, 2019

What you control is how you respond to your circumstances

Dustin Carter was only a young boy when he was rushed to the hospital with a rare blood disease. To save his life, the doctors had to amputate both of his arms and both of his legs.

Can you take a second to imagine that? I can’t. I’ve had my share of challenges in life, sometimes I look back at them and I feel great.

But something like this?

I still can’t begin to fathom the horror of waking up from surgery with no arms or legs. In situations like these, would you not feel sorry for yourself? Feeling like life has dealt you a bad hand?

If anyone ever had a reason to feel sorry for oneself, it was Dustin. The funny thing is that even if Dustin felt that way, it wasn’t for long. Not only did that crazy son-of-a-gun pull himself back, but he also did not let his physical challenges hold him back either, and he learned to excel physically.

Again, bear with me. Take your time to imagine waking up one day with no arms and legs and thinking about what you want to do in life. Of all the choices you have, wrestler would probably not be high on the list. That was not the case with Dustin.

In fact, wrestling is what he chose to do, and through hard work and hours of training, he became a very accomplished wrestler. Dustin did more than just overcome his physical challenges -- he destroyed them. And in the process, he became an inspiration to millions of other people who face challenges of all sorts.

Now let’s talk about our barriers. When I think about what Dustin had to overcome, and I look at the things I let hold me back, I’m embarrassed.

What about you? What do you let stand in your way?

Think about the barriers and obstacles that you’ve let keep you from your goals. Don’t you think it’s time that you stopped making excuses and letting things stand between you and the life you want to have?

The life you are currently living is a result of the choices you’ve made. You can blame the circumstances, your upbringing, your family, the schools you attended, your boss, or the politicians. The fact is you don’t control any of that.

What you truly control is how you choose to respond to whatever life throws at you; something that builds your character.

Being accountable is not easy. At times it is very unpleasant, but if you are serious about your goals, you must take ownership of your situation.

Please stop playing the victim role in your life. Enough is enough. 

Touhid Kamal uses anthropology to learn more on micro-cultures and human behaviour, and is a UX researcher and team culture builder. He can be reached at [email protected]