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The ultimate stigma

  • Published at 05:38 pm December 16th, 2017
  • Last updated at 01:32 pm December 17th, 2017
The ultimate stigma
Rape -- the ultimate stigma, a blot on the face of society. This occurrence is the worst example of how abhorrent people can really be. In our country, the number of unreported cases rape exceeds the reported number. Nowadays, this malicious crime is not only confined to victimising adults, but it has also begun to spread its appalling tentacles to take children in its grasp. According to recent surveys, the number of child rape victims has exceeded the number of adult rape victims. In the 21st century, we speak a lot about “gender equity.” In numerous seminars, conferences, public speeches, and events, the term gender equity gets a lot of priority, but how much in the real world is it prioritised? In reality, women are extremely vulnerable. They need to be anxious constantly about their security. Their lives are always threatened, and many have lost their lives to this malevolent act of violence. As a research of Ain O Salish Kendra suggests, between January to June 2017, 16 women died after rape and five committed suicide after being raped. On the one hand, a child is termed to be the future of this country, and the nation is concerned about providing proper education to children and gifting them a glorious future. But most of these children do not even get their deserved security. The devastating grasp of this heinous crime has overshadowed many of their lives with trauma, and many have even lost their lives. According to ASK, between January and June this year, 18 children were victims of attempted rape, 84 were raped, seven were gang raped and five died after being raped. All of these victims were under 12 years of age, and some were even under six. The lack of values  In our country’s context, academic education for children is given extreme priority. Parents are concerned about their kids doing well in exams, and they tend to push their children in a competitive wave where they are always expected to perform better than the rest, but this is not all. Instead of pressuring children for academics, parents should focus on giving quality time to children and teach them moral and ethical values, especially how to behave with others, and respect for women. The lack of proper grooming and values becomes a tremendous trigger, which results in degrading and dreadful behaviour towards women, starting from sexual harassment to rape.
In such situations, the victim’s morale is weakened, and it results in them giving up the struggle
Moreover, parents are not open with children regarding sex education, although every child has the right to know about sex in a healthy manner. However, in our nation, this topic is a taboo. Children and teenagers get to know about sex in various inappropriate manners, which distort their perceptions of sex, which in turn creates enormous negative impacts in the long run. Violent and child pornography In this era of internet, the wave of pornography has spread to even the most remote places of our country. This is available anywhere and everywhere, just one click away. The availability of explicit sexual material contaminates the minds of a certain group of people and triggers sexual belligerence. According to a survey by The Gospel Coalition (TGC), certain types of violent pornography encourages male aggression. TGC also asserts that the availability of pornography triggers rape culture. Delayed law enforcement  In many cases, it is seen that justice for a rape victim is greatly delayed. Hearing after hearing takes place, and the victim and her family has to suffer immensely in this long period. In some cases, victims are directly blamed for the incident, and their families are horribly threatened, so that they take the case back. In such situations, the victim’s morale is weakened, and it results in them giving up the struggle and sometimes even committing suicide. Therefore, victory is claimed by the culprits. They now know that whatever they do, they will escape unpunished. So this encourages them further to harass or rape another person. A patriarchal society In our country, the stereotypical mindset is to blame a woman for any situation. For instance, if a woman is sexually assaulted, society tends to blame her for the occurrence. Furthermore, domestic violence on women is a common scenario in our country; hence a child learns that it is acceptable to be violent towards women. Wake up, parents To step towards a society free of violence, parents have a pivotal role. Providing academic guidance and imposing strict rules on children is not enough, parents must also supervise their children about ethics and morality, especially on how to behave with other people and respect women. Moreover, parents should provide such an environment at home which discourages violence. Say yes to sex education Now, it’s high time we all realise the need for sex education. It is the ultimate safe and healthy path through which children can learn about sex in a healthy environment. Making this topic taboo will do nothing but trigger the craving in children to know about it, hence using inappropriate means to get access to it. Call upon immediate action “Justice delayed is justice denied.” This phrase should never be applicable in such a severe matter, for this concerns someone’s life, dignity, honour, and well-being. Immediate action must be taken in such cases, and it should be ensured that the victim does not face any kind of threat or harassment from the accused. Most importantly, exemplary punishment such as castration could be carried out on the culprits, so that no one shall ever dare again. In a nutshell, if we want to see changes for the betterment of society, the first step is to change ourselves and create a positive impact on our surroundings. With our unity, betterment is inevitable. Audrika Eshna Purbasha is a social activist, and founder and president of Spark for Serenity.