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Style and substance (part 1)

  • Published at 12:12 am October 21st, 2016
Style and substance (part 1)
  Good looks and a large bank account can only take you so far. However, you should also be aware that women simply don’t respond to good looks or a fat wallet. Okay, perhaps the latter is more about financial stability than genuine gold-digging. But that’s a discussion for another day. The point is there are several legitimate steps into not only looking the part but playing the part of an attractive gentleman.

Learning from defeat

Let’s get one thing straight, gentlemen. Before you look good, you have to feel good. Within this process are a lot of other personal traits that need to be dealt with. One of those most important characteristics is toning down the pride. Forget about the physical aspects for a bit, and focus more on what is necessary. This might sound strange, but admitting when you are wrong is a very attractive quality to the opposite sex. The truth is we spend too much time trying to be clever and not admitting to when we are completely wrong. If you look bad in something, admit to it, and take it off or change it for something better. Being stubborn, and acting like a know-it-all will get you nowhere. Admission is not a sign of weakness, it’s actually courageous. You’re showing signs that you are genuinely willing to learn more of what you don’t know. And learning from the opposite sex is a plus. The ultimate take here is to be more open minded, never stop learning.

The fresh cut

The easier and basic steps are things people tend to forget. Again, before you dive into your wardrobe, you must groom properly first. Get yourself to your trusted barber for a clean haircut. This may come as a huge surprise to most of you, but a cleaner and sharper haircut can do wonders to your overall look. There are men who, let’s be honest, don’t have the classical good looks to make the women go bonkers. With a new and trimmed hairdo, however, will catch the attention by many as a sign of professionalism. They acknowledge that you are a man of discipline, a man who knows what he wants.


You know what drives women crazy? A damn good fragrance. There is the obvious, everyday freshly shower smell that is a mixture of soap, body wash or shampoo and conditioner. Then, there is a bottle of seduction that women are hypnotised by. Women are instantly turned on by an attractive smell. It’s science, Google it. So do your homework, test out many fragrances and see what smells good with your own body odour. Have two or three fragrances at your disposal, depending on the season and occasion. These, just like everything else in your style arsenal are an investment.

Confusing clichés

You know that old saying: “The first think women look at on a man is his shoes.” This is pure rubbish. Well, not completely. There are smart and attractive women who find themselves with a man who decides to wear crocs or casual sandals on dates. This has always been mind boggling, yet it is the inconvenient truth. The truth is, when it all comes down to it, a woman won’t judge a man by his shoes. She’ll actually give you a shot, God knows why. Although, it’s to your advantage if you practice on wearing proper, quality shoes. Whether they are loafers, traditional oxford lace-ups, sneakers, boots, and so on, you’ll be one step ahead of the rest. They don’t have to be expensive shoes either, they just need to be well taken care of and clean. Again, it’s all in the details, and most women will notice. The shoes may not be make or break, but they sure as hell increase the chance of you getting into her inner circle.

The thin line

There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. You might have heard of the saying, “Walk in the room like you own it.” Well, whatever you’ve been taught so far can be misconstrued as arrogance. Don’t walk into a room like you own it. Walk into a room as if you have always belonged. You see the difference? No one likes a bragger, but take humility for a second. Modesty can take you a long way, but too much of it can be damaging. Women love confidence, and to certain extent, some cockiness as well. There’s a time and place for both. It all might sound confusing but you need to find yourself in the middle; a balance in between should be come a healthy habit. You should be confident about your achievements but also make not that you still have a way to go. Showing that you can always improve yourself works well in the attractive department. Something as simple as saying, “Well, thank you,” as you nod, “but there’s plenty to improve on, I’m not perfect,” works just fine.
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