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Drama Mama

  • Published at 05:52 pm October 9th, 2016
Drama Mama

Dear Dina,

My son is nearly two years old and refuses to talk. Sometimes he says words like "Ma" but other than that he does not speak at all. If he wants anything done, he'll point and cry but never speak. This is frustrating for me because often I don't understand why he's crying or what he wants. I've tried almost every way to help him communicate better, but to no avail. There are times where he'll keep pointing or crying for something but I cannot figure out what it is. This has even led to him going into uncontrollable fits of tears where nothing I do can console him. Many say this is normal, but is it, really?

Dear Mom,

You have every reason to be concerned because this is not ‘normal’ behavior for a 2-year-old. By two, a child usually has a vocabulary ranging from 75-225 words. Even late talkers can say about 25 words. Your child should be taken in for an evaluation as he may be on the Autistic spectrum. These individuals usually have trouble communicating, make eye contact, expressing emotions and are frequently frustrated due to these limitations. If you son’s behaviour is not due to a cognitive dysfunction, then he is emotionally traumatised for some reason that needs to be determined. For you to sit back and accept his behavior as normal, however, would not be the best course of action at this point.

Dad debates

Dear Dina,

I'm a single dad of an 11-year-old girl. In our home, it's just me, her and the maids. When I leave for work, I leave her with her nanny or with her grandmother who visits from time to time. As she's approaching her teens, I think she's growing up and it's time we have an open talk about menstruation. I'm just not sure how to go about it or if I'm even the right person to discuss this with her. What is the best way to go about this, without making her uncomfortable?

Z

Dear Z,

I applaud your raising your daughter on your own and wanting to discuss such sensitive issues with her personally. I do, however, think it would be awkward to brooch this topic on your own and suggest you have a female relative or friend help you do it. The teenage years are difficult enough on their own without having to discuss embarrassing things with your father!
Dina Sobhan is a freelance writer, a part-time counsellor and a full-time mom