Even though rape, molestation, sexual assault etc were always severe issues, the current situation has served as a wake-up call for everyone. Although vulnerable, we can still cling to the power to mobilize change and ensure that the future of the country is safe.
All changes always start from our households.
Talking about sex, intimate parts of the body, even menstruation has always been considered taboo in our country. As children, we almost never received the proper sex talk, never learned to establish proper boundaries in order to save our dignity along with our lives. Hence, we should take steps to educate our children for their own protection.
Bodily anatomy refers to having absolute control over one’s own body. Children should be fully aware that their bodies belong to them solely, they are less likely to be victimized by assault as they already know it is wrong.
How many times have parents forced us to hug family members even though we made it clear we were uncomfortable doing so? Doing this portrays the message that they are not in control of their own body. Parents should allow their children to talk about things which is uncomfortable to them, and most significantly, acknowledge whatever they have to say. When a child knows that they have their parent’s trust and support, they are less likely to hide things from them. When parents start respecting their children’s boundaries- it will act as a domino effect which will create a safe space for a child to open up about any discomfort or queries they are facing during their growth spurge.
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Secondly, it is essential to teach children the precise terms of their anatomy such as vagina, penis, and breasts and so on. When parents refuse to dwell into these topics, it immediately implies something shameful and secretive. As a result, children will automatically feel hesitant while talking to anyone about these aspects.
Moreover, using “cute” code words in place of the proper terminologies can also lead to misinterpretations. In that case, if children even were to talk about anything sexual, the ones not aware of the code names would be confused and just brush off whatever they were trying to say. This is where the societal misconceptions and unhealthy norms were born to begin with.
Most importantly, teach your children about consent -- the importance of the word “NO”.
Rape, sexual violence etc all take place because the lack of consent isn’t being paid heed to. Even if it’s a tickling game, if your child says no or tells you to stop, you should respect his/her wishes. That way, when the situation calls for it, your child will know what to say for their safety. Similarly, they will also know when to back off.
It’s not necessary for children to have full knowledge about all things sexual at an early age but it is crucial they know about their body and everything they need to protect it. Having such conversations may also be awkward initially but we all have the strength to break free from this toxic cycle of keeping our children in the dark. It will also establish the norm where they have healthy romantic relationships in the future but most significantly, it will give us the hope that a few years from now, our country will be nothing like it is now.
