It's Halloween tonight, and tradition dictates that those observing the occasion must dress up as monsters to fool the ghosts and ghoulies that pass through the portals between this realm and the other to roam the earth. For some people, every day is Halloween, where they dress up as "normal" folk in order to fool us "normal" folk. Here are five types of every day monsters, and how to deal with them.
- On an average day, this person is as ordinary as they get, and probably even sweet and lovable. Every once in a while, however - and regularly enough to be more than just a fluke incident - during moments of stress, the Werewolf turns into a raging beast of tantrums and aggression.
How to deal: If this happens enough that there's a pattern, it's important to separate the person from the triggers, and not take it personally (unless you are the trigger, in which case, you'd need to re-examine your communication patterns). Try and figure out what it is that causes these rages, and encourage the Werewolf to find solutions or seek help. If all else fails, give the raging beast some space and time to cool down and get back to normal.
The Mummy -
You think an elephant never forgets? They're nothing compared to The Mummy, who will hold a grudge forever, and take it to the grave...and probably even rise up out of it to remind you of his/her grievance.
How to deal: If this person is someone important to you, once something goes wrong, it is up to you to try and make amends as soon as possible, maybe even go the extra mile to make nice, to prevent a feud from forming and festering. Otherwise, it's best to cut losses and move on, because staying in this situation isn't a pretty prospect.
The Vampire -
At first glance, this person has a charming, seductive personality, which is what drew you to him/her in the first place. But as time goes on, maintaining the relationship can become quite an energy drain. The Vampire can be self-absorbed, needy, and negative, demanding all your attention, ignoring your needs. Stick with one long enough, and you'll find yourself exhausted and listless.
How to deal: Be polite, but firm and set down your boundaries. Just as the vampires of lore cannot enter a human household without permission, you can choose whether or not to let this person take up your time and energy. Hold your ground in a positive manner, and you'll be just fine.
Dr Jekyll/Mr Hyde -
What would life be without at least one two-faced monster in your closet? This kind of person might be all smiles and compliments up front, and then stick a knife in your back. Or, this person may be all flirty and friendly online, but a cold fish in person. Either way, this particular monster is as untrustworthy as they get.
How to deal: Firstly, it's important to acknowledge that you are dealing with a pathologically dishonest person. Once you do that, it'll be easier not to get your feelings hurt. Secondly, approach the person with a certain amount of distance; don't share ideas, confide secrets, or otherwise show your hand. The fewer weapons you hand over, the better. Finally, be assertive, but not aggressive. Stooping to this person's level will only put you at a disadvantage.
The Phantom -
This category of monster is more annoying than harmful. This is the person who randomly drops in and out of your life, rarely keeps commitments, and yet acts jealous around the company you keep. Some might even find their antics entertaining.
How to deal - Take this person with a pinch of salt, and don't get too serious. A certain amount of detachment will help you see the funny side of the Phantom's flaky personality, and over time, you'll come to appreciate the times you do get to spend time together.
Ultimately, with real life bogeymen, it's important to remember that the power lies in your hands. If you don't let them affect you, you won't have to look under your bed before you go to sleep every night. Happy Halloween